Immaculate Heart of Mary Catholic Church

Homily for April 1, 2007
Liturgical Year C - Cycle I
PALM SUNDAY
By Fr. John Carney
Topic: Life is Hard
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We have begun Holy Week and there are lots of images that go with this week. On Holy Thursday, there is the Last Supper and the Washing of the Feet. On Good Friday, there is the Agony in the Garden, the Passion of Our Lord, Jesus Christ, his suffering and death and the image of the resurrection on Easter Sunday. I think the paramount image, for most of us, for this week will be the Crucifix: Jesus on the Cross. It is especially true for Catholics, because in every Catholic Church there is a crucifix. It’s good that we take a minute or two as Holy Week begins to talk about the Cross, His cross, and your crosses.

Many of you have read the book by Scott Peck, “The Road Less Traveled”. It sold over 6 million copies. That book begins with a three-word sentence: “Life is hard.” Then, for the rest of the book, Peck goes about to explain how we accept the reality of that statement determines whether we will lead a life of peace or a life of despair. The Passion that we just heard reminds us that life entails suffering. As Scott Peck would say that the manner in which we embrace that suffering or reject it will determine if we are happy or miserable. So, we talk about His cross and your crosses. It was interesting last night after we had two masses at 4 pm and 6 pm. As I made these remarks, I looked around. Priests know their people and I know your crosses. Frankly, I was moved at the number of crosses you carry and at the great dignity in which you carry your crosses. I made some notes last night and just looking around as I spoke, I looked at a man who has cancer, a woman whose husband is dying just as the kids are about to graduate from high school (She knows she will lose him.), a man who recently lost his beloved wife after over 50 years of marriage, a man who has Parkinson’s Disease, a man who has been caring for his wife who has Alzheimer’s (She’s not going to get better and he knows that. He’s thinking about how he will care for her.), a woman who is a single mom and can’t make ends meet, a man who had heart surgery and who has no job and no insurance, a man who’s suffering from depression, a woman who has just lost her husband and is left with three young children all under the age of ten, a woman whose children are struggling with mental illness, a woman whose son has just relapsed using drugs again, a man whose son is in jail, a man who desperately wants faith, a couple whose son has just been deployed to Iraq, a man who started drinking again, and a woman whose mother-in-law just moved in with them. All of these people, I’m sure, have said, “My God, My God! Why have you abandoned me?” I also reflected on how easy it is to be a priest. We don’t get out of this life without suffering either, but we do get a pass on a lot of this stuff. You have many crosses and you bear them with great dignity and grace because you know Him who gives you strength to carry those crosses.

One thing’s for sure and that is suffering is inevitable. I guess animals suffer. They certainly feel pain, but the human person suffers much more greatly because we not only feel pain, we know we’re going to feel it again tomorrow and the next day. Also, we suffer from spiritual and relationship issues that are very painful and difficult. I think maybe the answer that comes with this cross that comes with Christ, the answer to coping with suffering, is found in one of the meanings of the words, “to suffer”. It is an old meaning we don’t use very often, but it’s interesting it is a meaning of the word. To suffer means to permit, to allow, not to forbid or hinder, to tolerate, to bear, to endure, to support, to sustain and to admit. The older ones of us around can remember the old translation of the scripture where the disciples were trying to keep the children away from Jesus. He said, “Suffer the little children to come unto me.” Do you remember that? We don’t use that word any longer in that context, but that’s one of the meanings of suffer. “Let them come.” In other words, one of the meanings of suffer is, “Let it come. I don’t want it, but let it come. I’ll be obedient to it because I have no choice.”

Some people even embrace their suffering. Jesus did. There’s a beautiful scene in the Passion of the Christ when he’s given the Cross to carry. He accepts it and then he embraces it. He hugs it. He loves the Cross because he loves you. The Cross was the instrument of your salvation. He loved it and we should as well.

We also know that suffering that is well born changes us for the better. Think about what suffering does to you. First of all, it strips away our egotism. That is a big problem and has been since Adam and Eve. Someone who is suffering’s ego is deflated completely. It also removes any false sense of independence. It’s one of these American virtues. “I’m a self-made man. I’m independent.” You look at your 401K and all of your pensions and say, “Oh, I’m going to be comfortable until I’m 300 years old. “ Well, that may be true until the doctor says you have cancer and you won’t survive.

Suffering helps us to realize what is truly important. Everything that gives us pain is passing and everything that gives us pleasure is passing. What is important is that which is eternal. Suffering offers us an opportunity to really know Christ, because unless you have suffered with him, you really don’t know him. You haven’t spent that quality time with him. Indeed, suffering has redemptive value and we need to know that today. In Europe particularly, and especially some of the countries in Northern Europe, countries have embraced euthanasia as an answer to human suffering. “Well, he’s old and he’s sick, so let’s put him down.” That’s what they’re doing. That makes sense if you see suffering as being absurd and having no value. We know that it is not absurd and that it has value, so we don’t put each other down. We console and spend time with each other.

We have a great memory of suffering in the late Holy Father John Paul II, John Paul the Great. Tomorrow is the second anniversary of his death. There is a picture I hope you saw as you entered the church today of him embracing his cross. If you didn’t see the picture, look at it as you leave. He is actually embracing the cross. We saw him embrace the cross of suffering publicly 10 years before he died. I remember towards the end that his face was almost paralyzed. His eyes watered. He drooled. He couldn’t smile and that must have killed him. Yet funny enough, when babies looked at him, they smiled. They didn’t see this hard look that the disease of Parkinson’s had given him. He couldn’t walk. He could hardly speak. He couldn’t eat well. People were saying, “Why doesn’t he retire? He’s hard to look at. Let’s get someone in there younger.” John Paul the Great did his best work in the last ten years of his life because he became an icon of suffering to a world that denies the value of suffering. His biographer, George Wiegel, said that, “His was not suffering born stoically. This was suffering transformed from absurdity into witness and grace by being offered to God in union with Christ.” John Paul knew that Easter was always preceded by Good Friday. In the dignity with which he bore his suffering, John Paul taught the 21st Century the same lessons that St. Paul had tried to teach the people of Corinth in the 1st Century. As Paul wrote, “As we share abundantly in Christ’s suffering, so through Christ we share abundantly in comfort.” Wiegel reminds us of that great verse from Colossians that somehow we make up in our own sufferings what was lacking in the sufferings of Christ. Theologians are still trying to unpack that. They’re not sure we can say that anything was lacking in Christ for surely he was perfect, but it was Christ’s plan that you join him on the Cross, that you share in his suffering for the redemption of the world. Wiegel says that through John Paul II millions around the world caught a glimpse of what it meant to fill up what is lacking in the suffering of Christ for the good of the church and the world. Now, we’re not masochists, especially Catholics. We’re really the party animals of all Christians. We love feasts and fiestas and parties and celebrations. We do not seek to suffer. We do all we can, ethically, to lessen or eliminate suffering. With Jesus we say, “Father, if it be thy will, let this cup pass from me.” We also say, “Not my will, but your will be done.”

Life is hard. Jesus knew that. John Paul the Great knew it. We know it. Life is hard and how we face that reality determines whether we will live a life of happiness and peace or a life of despair and hopelessness. We also know that Easter follows Good Friday. That gives us hope, it gives us peace, and it gives us true happiness.